Most of us love watching movies where we see how time can be reversed and somebody gets the chance to change the course of his/her life. Have you ever wished that you could get that once in a lifetime chance to change things from what they are? Of course you have! Everyone has. It would be so convenient, wouldn't it? There is that saying, “If I knew then what I know now…” or “I wish things hadn't turned out the way they did.” and still this other one, “I wish I could've done things differently.” We all have said, heard and thought these different phrases and there are tons of different ways to say the same thing, “I wish I could turn back time to change that.” How many times have we said, “I take that back.”? Have you ever stopped to wonder about that and how ridiculous it is? For real! How can you take something you said back when you already said it and was heard by those around you?

Decisions make up our experiences in life. Sadly, not all decisions are the right ones. We make decisions for a lot of reasons whether it is to get a better job or a bigger home. Maybe it is to get a new girlfriend or a promotion before your other colleagues. Many times, whether we know it, mean it, care or otherwise, our decisions are selfish decisions and they affect those around us, especially if they are spontaneous decisions. Too many times we don’t realize how often our decisions hurt others including the people we love and care about. And all too often, because of those choices, we end up being caught in the middle of the rock and the hard place. What hurts and frustrates us the most is that we can’t change what we did and even if we did, it would be a cowardly choice to try and change things. I’m not talking about life and death. I’m talking about our daily lives and the choices we make. Why? Because, it would make it easier for you to correct YOUR mistake and you wouldn’t have to face the responsibility or consequences for what you did.

                The fact of the matter is that all of us have made mistakes that we wish we could “take back” and as time goes by we don’t like to remember that certain situation because it still stings. I have one such memory which involves my brother. The truth of the is that he probably doesn’t even remember because it’s been forgiven and forgotten. But it bothers me to remember. I hate looking back at that moment and not being able to change it. I still remember the pain in his eyes. When things like that happens there is a lot of guilt and embarrassment involved

 So, why am I telling you all this? My point is this… forgiveness. WHAT?! Yep, forgiveness. But, not the kind where you forgive someone. Let me tell you why. The choice was made by you, so you need to forgive… you. Huh?! Yep… forgiving ourselves. “Why on earth would I want to do that?” Well, who is still hurting for the choice you’re now sorry you made? You are. Forgiving ourselves is about the hardest thing to do. It’s not easy but it’s just as important as forgiving others because it releases us to go on living. If we don’t make peace with our decisions, we will become very bitter people.

The Bible tells us not to condemn ourselves in what we approve. Of course, at this point, Paul was talking about food. But here’s the thing, God never condemns us. For real! Not only that, He is never disappointed in us. Why? Because He knows us. He knew exactly what was going to happen when you made your decision, therefore it didn’t surprise Him when things went wrong. We need to learn the difference between saddening God and disappointing Him. They are two different things. So, if He doesn’t condemn you for a bad decision or choice, why should you? Our past conforms who we are today, but it most certainly does NOT dictate who you can be. This doesn’t mean you go making all the choices you want and forget about it. What this means is that it’s OK to make peace with your past. It means that you can tell God about it and He takes care of the rest because He is the Only One Who can erase our mistakes and takes the pain of the memory away. Make peace with your decisions and take a step forward to an opportunity of doing it different today and your future. We might not be able to turn back time, but we have the future to look forward to…